What I learned in my silent meditation retreat…

I went to my first silent meditation retreat in early December.  Actually, that’s not entirely true.  I attended a non-residential silent vipassana retreat at UBC one summer…but it was terrible.  The teachings were entirely beyond me and I talked and texted in the evenings when I got home.  So, to rephrase, I successfully attended my first residential, silent meditation retreat …

3 Strategies to Manage Back to School Stress

In my experience the beginning of September is always a big transition.  I find myself craving schedule again.  I am ready for less indulgence in summer food and drinks and my body is crying to get back to a regular exercise, yoga and meditation practice.  But it comes with a lot of other things…back to school shopping, new shoes for …

Grilled Peach Split

Well here’s the magazine picture and my picture.  Feels like the same experience when I try to replicate something off of Pinterest (sigh).  However it may look, this recipe is perfect for this time of year and is delicious!  It melds seasonal peaches and blueberries…two of my favourites right now.  And it is taste tested and approved by my family, …

G-pah’s Award Winning Rib Recipe

Every year we have a family vacation at a beautiful little spot in BC called Jewel Lake. My husband’s family has a family “cabin” there. The first time that I arrived there in 2014 we had just finished an epic drive: starting in Nanaimo taking the 90 minute ferry trip to Vancouver, driving northeast for 5 hours to 100 Mile …

Favourite summer gin drink!

Stuff you need for a Pimms Cup: 1oz gin 1oz Pimms mix a variety of fruits, veg and herbs   I make my Pimms cup in a 500mL festive, colourful summer cup.  Pour in your gin (I love Merridale gin from Cowichan…it’s where Kev and I were married in 2015) and Pimms and then fill within an inch of the …

Comparison: The Silent Killer of Self Acceptance, Joy and Love

I shot out of bed in the middle of the night to put this to paper. It seems so poignant to me at this moment. Comparison: I’ve been doing a lot of it lately. And I’m starting to think of Comparison as the graveyard where all my self acceptance, joy and love goes to die. It kills my self esteem, …

You are not broken.

After many conversations this week I have come to realize that so many of us believe ourselves to be inherently broken, interminably unloveable, and imperfect in a world searching for perfection. I can’t say that I am committed to any particular religion, but the one message that seems to stand out for me is from the Buddhist tradition…I believe in …

Really, you’re just not that big a deal.

I have been accused once or twice, of being a self-help junkie. I am always looking for where the lesson is in an experience; always trying to make myself better (or even better, accept myself!); always looking at a situation as “almost perfect but could use some improvement.” This is a double edged sword. Living with me is made easier …

Sometimes love needs to be a verb

We tell each other that we love one another everyday. And somedays it’s enough and it’s perfect and it’s exactly and all we need to hear. But other times, we say it over and over and over again and still manage to not show up for our partners, our friends, our children, or ourselves. And in these times it is …

Expectation like a road sign that reads: Caution! Oncoming Disappointment!

So today I’m dealing with expectation that hasn’t been met.  Ugh.  It feels gross and icky.  I vacillate between feeling sad and disappointed and angry.  When it comes to expectation, I have a hard time drawing the line between acceptance and settling for less. I can’t tell if my feelings are valid or an over reaction; if this is my shit …